I close the clasp on the pin that would convert an ordinary sweater into an interesting one.
Now I am ready to go to my book club meeting to discuss the classic, “The Good Earth” by Pearl Buck, which our book club chose to discuss at this month’s meeting. Although most of us read the book years ago, we decided to compare our school-aged impressions with our adult ones.
I find the the book to be beautifully written, telling a compelling story, and populated with interesting characters with questionable motivations. I am looking forward to the discussion.
We arrive at our hostess’ house at 2P.M. and greet each other before today’s hostess, our moderator, begins the discussion. Once it begins there will be no small talk: nothing but book talk. But first, before the meeting there is nothing but small talk.
“Hi, Bethany; where in Cape Cod did you stay?”
“Steph, how’s the new grand baby?”
“Nora,what’s going on with your kitchen renovations?”
Then Sandy says to me, “What a pretty pin. Is it new?”
Unknowingly her question, ”Is it new,” touched a hot button.
Why do people ask if something is new as an addendum to a
compliment? Is it better if it’s new? Does it matter when I bought it?
Would they like me to verify the purchase date by seeing a copy of
the sales slip?
Why can’t a compliment stand alone?
If I am introduced to my son’s girlfriend, would I say, “She seems very nice; is she new?”
Or a friend’s hair color. “It’s very becoming; is it new?”
Does anyone ask a middle aged man if “she is new?” when he’s introducing his trophy wife?
So why do they ponder my pin?
I guess I just don’t understand human inquisitiveness. It seems to be a standard question that people ask when admiring something.
When we moved into our new house recently a stream of friends came over to see it. A particularly close friend noticed the new table in our dining room.
What do suppose she asked?
She said to me, “That’s a beautiful table. Is it old?”